Here are some effective Relationship Tips for Couples regardless of their ages, make sure you follow them:
The first relationship tip is to prioritize your relationship. Make your couple’s relationship #1. Couples’ relationships cost, and that’s the price if you want to have a great one. When you make your beloved feel like a king or queen, they will never think of another and gladly return the favor.
Be sure that both you are on the same page around finances and how you look at and treat money. Money, especially the lack of it, is one of the major sources of contention in relationships which leads to divorce. Be respectful of money and it will stick around and multiply.
Do little unexpected things, like catching your sweetheart doing something right. You can never underestimate the power of an honest compliment. Your beloved will love you even more when you do little things that make them feel appreciated, relevant and cherished. By the way, compliments are often contagious.
Make it a daily habit to be interested in their day, and be willing to share some of yours as well. Just be sure to go light on the complaining though. Look into their eyes and smile. Be interested, present and open, become their sounding board and confidante. Check-in to see if they just need to feel heard or would prefer some input from you.
Avoid talking about your exes at all costs, period. You don’t want to make them to feel jealous or insecure. Your exes are in your past or they better be, and make sure they stay there. Your sweetheart is the only show in town now and make absolutely sure they know it and feel it.
Don’t nitpick or nag them, you’re not their parent. That’s the quickest way to kill the sex drive. Instead notice when they do something well and mention it, especially to someone else when they can hear you; your beloved will be beaming. You want them to think of you as a delicious piece of mouth-watering chocolate cake that they can’t wait to get to, not an annoying whiner.
Honor your wants and needs. In other words, pick your battles. Where you have dinner or which movie you see is really not that important. At the end of the day, as long as you’re holding hands, connecting emotionally, and having a great time is all that really matters. That’s what releases the feel-good chemicals in our brains. Learn to negotiate, perhaps by taking turns picking, that way you both get what you want.
Anger is a powerful yet healthy emotion when used appropriately and sparingly. Most importantly anger creates boundaries, rage on the other hand destroys couples’ relationships.
Become their cheering squad, support them in every way you can. When they truly know that you are by their side, they can conquer the world. When you are loving and supportive, your sweetheart will jump at the chance to reciprocate and be your biggest fan.
No matter how long you’ve been together, create date nights, just for the two of you. Hire a babysitter, have your parents or the neighbor watch the kids, whatever you need to do so you can be together alone. Also plan vacations or romantic weekend getaways. When you have a garden, weeds are to be expected. So, be proactive and take care of business! Be an adoring and supportive spouse and your devoted sweetheart will be convinced they’ve hit the jackpot and treat you like the precious jewel that you truly are. I mentioned this one twice because it’s that important!
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