Be Sure To Take care of Number One – First
When a woman takes care of herself and sets appropriate boundaries in a couples relationship, she in effect sets the tone for how she needs to be treated. Doing this earns her the respect of her boyfriend and future husband. Through millions of years of evolution, men are trained to hunt and work for what they get. When a guy has to work hard for something he will appreciate it far more, so why disappoint him? By taking care of yourself, while being kind, supportive and loving towards him, you will become his forever sweetheart and he won’t want to let you out of his sight so no one else scoops you up.
How does one do this you ask?
Make sure that you get enough rest to be on top of your game and in a good mood. Crab apples aren’t sexy nor do they get the “dream boat.” The choice is yours.
Know who you are and what you’ll put up with or won’t. Be warm yet firm.
How we dress speaks volumes about how we feel inside. Be sure to always look your very best. When you look like a million bucks, with a great smile, you’ll be treated as such.
Your smile is your best make-up. Be sure to use its’ power often, let those pearly whites shine. If your smile isn’t ready for prime time, run to the dentist and treat yourself to a beautiful smile.
Don’t forget to treat yourself to some very nice things on occasion that make you feel really great; just don’t go nuts spending beyond your means.
Get in the habit of asking for help, even if you don’t need any. If that makes you uncomfortable, practice with a little old lady in the grocery line for example or someone that doesn’t intimidate you and you’ll gradually get better at it. Do this because it will make your man feel needed and important in your life; that’s priceless.
When you say yes be sure you mean it and your heart is in it, and not because you got pressured into it.
When you say no, be sure you mean it too and don’t backpedal if pressured. No is not a bad word, when you set boundaries, people will respect you and if they don’t…dump them (immediately).
If you feel that you need more help or additional support to make a difference in your life, please contact Los Angeles psychologist Dr. Gilbert Chalepas by calling his Beverly Hills or Laguna Beach Offices +1 (310) 500 8442 for free initial session*.