Our quality of relationships directly impacts our wellbeing. Having an intimate bond with your partner can bring out the best in both of you. However — no matter how good or bad — all relationships experience some ups and downs. Maintaining a good relationship is not a one-time thing. We all need to put in some work, commitment, and understanding from time to time to keep things going.
That being said, there are some subtle practices that can bring lots of positive change in a relationship. Whether you’re new in a relationship or have been together for a while, you can use the following strategies to improve your bond and develop intimacy.
Simple Yet Powerful Ways of Improving a Relationship or Marriage
1. Develop Trust
The happiest and most satisfying relationships and marriages are those that have a deep feeling of trust in them. If you want to know one sure way to build a relationship that lasts, it’s trust. Therefore, it is essential that you develop a strong sense of alliance first. By being trustworthy, it means that you always have each other’s back, even when you’re not on good terms with one another.
Be emotionally open with another and share how you truly feel. Be kind to your partner and let them know that they can always rely on you for both physical and emotional help. Support them during thick and thin and empathize with them. Learn to love your partner without any ulterior motives. Make them feel as if they are loved for being who they are and not for other reasons. Other reasons could be their money, their looks, their family, or anything else.
2. Be a Good Listener
Everyone yearns to be heard. It is surprising how difficult it is to find someone who can listen to you and truly understand how you feel. When you fill in that gap in someone else’s life, people can’t help but get attracted to you. Be there for your partner and never demoralize them for their insecurities. Let them know that they can be vulnerable in front of you and you won’t break their trust.
Good listening skills always lead to more meaningful relations. Being a good listener shows the other person that you respect them and it is also an indicator of maturity. A good listener also helps resolve issues by being open with the other person by understanding their viewpoints. Being an understanding and empathic person works as a stepping stone for lasting relationships and marriages.
3. Communicate Clearly, Kindly and Effectively
We can never understand someone else’s problem until we see things from their way. Often, one of the biggest hurdles to building a strong and lasting relationship is poor communication between the couple. If there’s something bothering you, always talk it out clearly with your partner so they understand what you mean. Talk about how it affects you and listen to your partner.
Never make assumptions without knowing the full side of the picture. A lack of understanding can bring out the worst ideas in people and cause damages to the relationship or the marriage. Such as accusing your partner of cheating just because they haven’t been talking to you. Similarly, don’t expect your partner to read your mind. If something’s bothering you, let the other half know before things start to get sour. Learn to negotiate your conflicts in a healthy manner and remember, you don’t always have to be right all the time. If the issue isn’t that important, learn to let it go or agree to disagree.
4. Appreciate Your Partner
Appreciation is also another essential key to any great relationship or marriage. We often find ourselves taking each other for granted. Never truly appreciating their good qualities and all they’ve done for us. Start by paying full attention when your partner speaks to you. Proper eye contact tells the other person that you appreciate them and pays importance to what they’re saying. Encourage and support their actions. From time to time let them know how much you appreciate them.
Thank them for the little things that make a difference. Compliment them when they’re looking pretty. Show non-verbal gestures of affection such as putting your arms around them, holding hands, hugging, or kissing them. Don’t hesitate to let them know how much you love them. “Your happiness means the world to me” or even a simple “I love you” can go a long way in creating lasting love in your relationship.
5. Give Each Other Space
Being in a relationship and even marriage does not mean that your partner will be available for you 100% of the time. They have other people in their lives too. Friends, family, work and all other things are also going on in their lives. So, don’t feel bad if they can’t give time to you. Does your partner wish to be left alone when they’re upset? Do they really want to text you all day every day? Respect their privacy and try not to push them to do things they’d rather not do.
Try not to be obsessive and let them live their lives the way they prefer. The same goes for the majority of other things in your relationship such as physical touch, hanging out, and communication. Learn the boundaries and stick to them.
6. Anticipate Some Tensions
You’re setting yourself up for disappointment if you think you will always get what you want in a relationship or even your marriage. Even in the best of relationships, you won’t always be on the same page with one another. There are many other factors that count such as jobs, family, or other relations. These can be difficult to handle and create stress that isn’t exactly related to you. Remember not to push your partner around and also not to take out your problems on your partner.
If you want to grow together in a relationship, remember that you will need to be flexible and face some downward pulls from time to time. If you find tension rising, it’s always better to talk things out. You can even reach out to external sources such as mutual friends or counseling for your relationship needs.
Your relationship or marriage counselor at Reconnect Relationship will assist you get to the bottom of the major causes of your relationship not being optimal by partnering with you to assess the thoughts, feelings and accompanying behaviors that are contributing to the state of your relationship.
Together you will come up with personal coping strategies to help you better manage your relationship or marriage, and you will be provided with tried and tested techniques as well as specific tools which be effective for you long-term.
Our counseling psychologists and psychotherapists at Reconnect Relationship in Beverly Hills & Laguna Beach, CA have substantial experience in helping with relationships and marriages.
There you have it. Some simple yet effective ways that can boost your relationships as well as your marriage. Using these strategies will help you look at things differently and understand what truly matters when making lasting and deep bonds.
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